I’ve had several conversations this week with clients and friends who desire to create new situations in their lives.
They’ve talked about wanting to create new eating patterns, exercise routines, careers, businesses, living spaces, romances, hobbies, budgets, friendships, more time with their spouses and kids, etc.
It’s all very admirable. After all, it is springtime and we’ve had a rough cold winter at least here in the northeast. We are emerging from the freeze with renewed zest for getting back into our lives and planting the seeds for our next stage of growth.
However, I have noticed a glaring pattern in most of these conversations. I have sensed stress, strain, fatigue and burnout as the underlying energy fueling these new desires. There is a sense of running away from these uncomfortable feelings as the source of creation for something new, as opposed to choosing from a place of deep desire and inspiration.
It took me a while to get what was going on.
At first, I simply noticed that I was feeling exhausted listening to some of these plans. When I listen to clients, I am not just hearing their words, but I am tuning into the energy behind the words. And the words I was hearing this week were making me confused and tired. Something felt off. This is my clue that I am listening to the dictates of the fearful ego mind more than the inner guidance of the soul.
We are all so conditioned that our mind knows best. We think it knows what we need to do next and that’s all there is to it. Yet, if that’s true, why do so many of us feel stuck, confused and lost?
So many of the plans I was hearing this week were filled with a sense of overwhelm. Many clients mentioned the lists they were writing, the instructional books they were reading or the classes they were signing up for in their already limited free time. Yet nobody seemed to know where to start and they were looking to me for guidance.
So what is one to do when we desire change, but are spinning our wheels trying to make it happen?
- Practice Self-Acceptance
When we are trying to change things because we are frustrated, tired and perhaps angry about a painful situation or aspect of our lives it can sometimes create an energy of resistance that actually keeps us stuck.
For instance, say you want to lose the 10-15 pounds you gained this winter. Yet, you are so upset that you gained this weight that you cannot make healthy choices around food. Your resistance to the situation ends up creating self-sabotage.
If instead, we can look at an aspect of our lives that we want to change from a place of self-acceptance and compassion, we can then approach the problem with less resistance and more peace of mind. From this place of peace, we can then choose our next steps.
- Less is More
When we chose from a place of peace and self-acceptance, we can access our deeper wise self or inner guidance. This part of our self always knows what is best for us and will advise us what to do next. From what I have seen the wise self is always present with its guidance, the trick is learning to listen and trust this inner voice.
Trusting your inner voice takes some practice. Start with some small decisions and begin to tune in and hear what you are being told. Follow it and see how it turns out. We are usually just given one step at a time and not the whole map.
This is inspired action.
It looks and feels different from massive action which is usually coming from fear. It requires trust and the willingness to develop a relationship with this part of yourself, but when you do it will become your faithful ally.
- Keep Your Vibration High
This can sound a bit woo woo, but everything is energy and like attracts like.
When we are spinning in a low vibration or negative mood we tend to attract more negativity and low energy. Our negative thoughts will run the same negative stories that keep us stuck and confused.
If we want to create positive change in our lives, it is imperative that we create from a place of clear intention and positive expectation. To do this, we need to develop the skill and discipline of learning to let go of our negative stories and choose a thought or story that feels better. When we consciously shift into a higher vibration we are able to make choices from a more resourceful, optimistic place.
I have heard that the highest vibration we can be in is a state of gratitude.
Try it now. Think of something you are grateful for and see how it shifts your energy. By practicing gratitude in your life you can lift your vibration and keep your energy in a place that is most conducive to taking inspired action rather than massive action. From this place we get unstuck and change can occur with more grace and ease.
What inspired action can you take today? Give it a try and let me know how it goes