These are amazing times we live in…
Like never before, there are so many opportunities open to all of us to maximize our potential and fulfill our dreams.
I think many of us can feel it intuitively that big changes are afoot and the energy and consciousness on the planet is shifting at an unprecedented speed. We are all being called to heal and transform the unhealed parts of ourselves. This can feel exhilarating one day and daunting the next. It is a bit of a roller coaster ride and it’s not going to slow down anytime soon.
As a matter of fact, I feel the ride is only going to get faster and deeper…
One of the changes I see is more awareness and consciousness around the empowered feminine archetype and what it means and looks like to live from this place. The energy of the divine feminine is becoming stronger on the planet now as our consciousness is shifting to a higher vibration and we are being called like never before to step into this more fully.
I am noticing in my clients, both women and men, that it is becoming increasing painful to stay disconnected from their feminine energy/power and to remain masculine-dominant like so many of us have lived in the past.
By feminine energy I mean that part of us that is open, receptive, intuitive, creative, compassionate, nurturing, non-linear and connected to our feelings and emotions. While masculine energy is typically more goal and purpose driven, rational, linear, focused, protective, structured and about doing and achieving.
All of us, men and women, contain both masculine and feminine energy. It’s simply that our culture has historically favored the masculine over the feminine and created an imbalance that is now coming to be corrected.
So how do we do this? How do we begin to honor and unveil this potent feminine energy that yearns to be revealed in order to heal us both individually and collectively?
Please note this is not just for women. Our dear men need to connect more deeply to the energy of the divine feminine within, as well, in order to unmask their hearts and heal the disconnect in their psyche and soul.
Here’s three steps to get us all started.
- Heal Your Codependency
In all my years of working with clients, I don’t think I’ve met anyone who doesn’t have their own particular brand of codependency. Codependency is a big topic, but in a nutshell I will describe it as a boundary issue in which one person gives their power to another to make them happy, feel whole, fill their own emptiness and take care of them in ways in which they need to take care of them self. It is ultimately a way in which we give our power over to someone else and/or take responsibility for someone else’s business so as to make ourselves feel better.
I highly recommend the book, Codependent No More by Melody Beattie as a place to start with this. Recently I recommended this book to a client who is struggling in a 12-year relationship full of codependency. She came into my office last week and said to me, “This may be the most important book I read in my life.”
Amen. She got it.
In order to reclaim your feminine power, you cannot be bleeding your energy in codependent relationships. This is disempowering to both you and the other person. I have seen people be codependent with not only their spouses or partners, but their kids, their parents, siblings and co-workers. It is a huge energy drain and needs to be healed.
2. Connect to Your Dreams and Desires
Once you pull yourself away from codependent energy drains, you will have more energy to connect with yourself. This can feel scary sometimes. Who are You? What is your life truly about? What are your deep dreams and desires? What truly lights you up?
Your desires lead to your destiny and your true north—your purpose for being here. If you are disconnected from your deep heartfelt desires, you are missing an essential part of You.
It’s time to reconnect! To be powerfully living in your feminine power, you must open to your inner guidance, intuition, your feeling nature, your dreams and desires.
Find a way to rediscover what turns you on. You most likely knew as a child. Begin to allow yourself to explore, play, go on an adventure, dream, turn up the music—dance, sing, run, laugh. Your body, heart and soul know what lights you up. Listen. This is where your feminine power lies. Let it speak to you and listen to its messages…
- Find a Way to Remove the Negative Thoughts and Beliefs
Once you lift your vibration and reconnect with your desires, you may feel some resistance. The old ego-mind doesn’t like to let go into the feminine too much. It can feel out-of-control and scary. Negative thoughts and buried beliefs will come up to be healed. Don’t let this surprise or derail you. You’re not doing anything wrong. As a matter of fact, it may be a good sign…a detox of sorts.
When you notice the negative thoughts or stories arise, ask yourself, “Is it really true?” When your head says your desires are trivial, a waste of time, frivolous; challenge this thought. Go into your body. How does the desire feel?
A feeling of freedom and lightness is your clue that you are on the right path and your thoughts may be leading you astray. Find a thought that feels better than the negative, fearful thought and stick with that. Learn to trust your body, your heart and your soul.
Let’s all join together and reclaim our feminine power, women and men alike. The world has been waiting for this moment. The divine feminine is here to heal us all.
How lucky are we to be living in this moment in time? Let’s not miss this opportunity.