How to Protect Yourself from Gaslighting
If you recognize signs of gaslighting, (see Part 1), in your relationship with a partner, boss, friend, or family member, it’s important to take action to protect yourself:
- Trust Your Gut – If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Your instincts are valid.
- Keep a Record – Write down conversations, events, and incidents to refer back to later if the gaslighter tries to twist the narrative.
- Seek Support – Talk to a trusted friend, therapist, or support group to gain an outside perspective.
- Set Boundaries – Don’t engage in arguments that go in circles or try to prove yourself to someone determined to distort reality.
- Educate Yourself – Learning more about gaslighting can help you recognize it and respond more effectively.
- Consider Distance – If possible, reducing or cutting contact with the gaslighter may be necessary for your mental well-being.
Gaslighting is typically done by those with some degree of narcissistic personality disorder and/or chronic addictive behavior such as alcoholism or drug abuse, etc. At the core of gaslighting is a person with deep shame who is unable to take responsibility for their own toxic behavior. The target of gaslighting is often an empathic person who is trying to understand, help or express their own needs and is then, instead, blamed excessively.
Final Thoughts
Gaslighting is a serious form of emotional manipulation that can have long-lasting effects on your self-esteem, mental and physical health. Recognizing it is the first step toward reclaiming your sense of self and standing strong in your truth. If you suspect you’re being gaslit, remember that you are not alone, and help is available. Stay strong, trust yourself, and seek the support you deserve.
Read Previous: Are They Gaslighting? How to Recognize and Protect Yourself from Manipulation-Part 1
Read Also: Are You Dealing with a Narcissist?
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