In last week’s blog I talked about three ways to reclaim your feminine power. This week, I want to expand upon that topic since I feel it is so important to the happiness and full expression of all women and to the healing of our masculine-dominant culture that has spun out-of-control and is in desperate need of balance, wholeness and integration.
So, what is feminine power?
I view feminine power as being in touch with and able to express the qualities of inner guidance, intuition, receptivity, nurturance, compassion, open-heartedness, surrender, sensuality, emotions and feelings. It is also being able to balance these feminine qualities with the empowered masculine qualities of creating goals, taking purposeful action, developing structure, and making things happen.
Ultimately, feminine power is being able to live from our deepest truth, feel happy, fulfilled and actualize our gifts and talents in the world in whatever way is authentic for us.
These feminine qualities exist in all of us, women and men. Yet, the masculine-dominant culture has overlooked the feminine traits as unimportant, for the most part, and caused a disconnect in the hearts and souls of many.
For women in particular, this has caused untold pain and a loss of our basic essence and wholeness, a dimming down of our light and an inability to fully claim our gifts, talents and confidently express them in the world.
However, there is an energetic shift now happening that is making this imbalance intolerable and women are taking note in droves. I speak to women every day who no longer feel satisfied with the old paradigm. They feel great unrest, dissatisfaction with the status quo and are yearning for deeper self-expression, fulfillment and happiness.
So what are we to do? How do we clear our blocks, fears, limiting beliefs and behaviors and emerge into a higher state of consciousness that can sustain our full power as women?
Last week I spoke about clearing codependency, connecting with one’s dreams and desires and dealing with negative, fearful thoughts.
Here’s 3 more strategies:
- Look at What You are Tolerating in Your Life and Deal With it
It is very hard, if not impossible, to step fully into your feminine power if there are a multitude of energy drains that you are putting up with and doing nothing about.
By energy drains I mean the messy, cluttered house or desk, the relationship with your partner that is less than loving and respectful, the complaining parent or friend that you never set limits with, the credit card debt that you avoid looking at, the home repairs you never get around to, the job that sucks your soul, or the geographic location that no longer feels like home, etc…
By not dealing with these types of energy drains you distract yourself from really feeling your deep yearnings, desires and that inner voice that wants more for your life than simply managing from one day to the next. Get help here if you need to. Clear up these types of energy drains and create space for more power to run through your system so you may connect more deeply with your feminine power.
- Develop a Spiritual Practice
I’ve questioned hundreds of clients over the years about their spiritual beliefs and practices and I have found that those that have some connection to a higher source and belief system feel more resilient and powerful in their lives. When we can view our life in the framework of being held in some kind of divine plan that wants the best for us, it can hold us up even in the most difficult and challenging times.
Find something you can believe in and turn to it for daily sustenance and comfort. Learn to listen to your inner voice and guidance and follow its directions. Practice some method of being in silence and trusting in your inner wisdom. Listening to your inner guidance is the path to greater feminine power. If we were taught this as children, the world would be a better place.
- Find Your Tribe and Create Loving Support
There is nothing that soothes a woman’s soul and bolsters her self-confidence and self-esteem more than a trusted circle of loving friends. In this world of constant fear-mongering and negativity, you simply cannot maintain your feminine power without loving connection with like-minded soul sisters.
Women are wired for connection and emotional expression and without a trusted and loving outlet for that, we grow brittle, flat, fearful and uninspired. If you do not have this, seek it out. There are so many other women of all ages searching for this, too. Find or create a woman’s group in your neighborhood, join a book club, take a class or workshop. Stretch out of your comfort zone here and know that others will appreciate getting to know you as much as you appreciate getting to know them.