Denver Life Coach Archives

Your Dreams Are Alive and Well

Life can be disappointing. People let us down. They lie, cheat, betray our trust. Unexpected events knock us off course, draining our energy and breaking our spirit. It can feel almost impossible to pursue what we want when most of our time is consumed by obligations, responsibilities, and putting out fires.

But what if—beneath all the chaos—your long-forgotten dreams are still alive and well?

If that feels hard to believe, let’s just pause and suspend disbelief for a moment. Let’s peer into the corners of your heart and brush off the cobwebs. Let’s uncover the dreams you tucked away when life got too loud, too busy, too painful.

Take a moment.

Close your eyes. Breathe. Drop into your heart and listen.

What do you hear?

Feeling Stuck: How to Break Free and Move Forward

by Nancy Harris 1 Comment

We’ve all been there—trapped in a cycle of uncertainty, feeling stagnant in life, work, or relationships. Feeling stuck can be frustrating, but it’s also a signal that something needs to change. Here’s how to break free and move forward with confidence.

1. Identify the Source

Before making changes, understand what’s causing you to feel stuck. Is it your job, routine, a relationship, or your mindset? Often, internal barriers like fear and self-doubt play a role. Reflection can provide clarity on what’s holding you back.

2. Shift Your Mindset

Your thoughts shape your reality. If you constantly tell yourself that you’re stuck, you reinforce that belief. Instead, shift your dialogue to something more empowering like, “I’m in a phase of transformation” or “I’m figuring things out.”

3. Take Small Steps

You don’t need drastic changes to create momentum. Even small actions—updating your resume, starting a hobby, or seeking advice—can make a significant difference.

Are They Gaslighting? How to Recognize and Protect Yourself from Manipulation-Part 2

by Nancy Harris 1 Comment

How to Protect Yourself from Gaslighting

If you recognize signs of gaslighting, (see Part 1), in your relationship with a partner, boss, friend, or family member, it’s important to take action to protect yourself:

Trust Your Gut – If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Your instincts are valid.
Keep a Record – Write down conversations, events, and incidents to refer back to later if the gaslighter tries to twist the narrative.
Seek Support – Talk to a trusted friend, therapist, or support group to gain an outside perspective.
Set Boundaries – Don’t engage in arguments that go in circles or try to prove yourself to someone determined to distort reality.
Educate Yourself – Learning more about gaslighting can help you recognize it and respond more effectively.
Consider Distance – If possible, reducing or cutting contact with the gaslighter may be necessary for your mental well-being.

Are They Gaslighting? How to Recognize and Protect Yourself from Manipulation-Part 1

by Nancy Harris 1 Comment

It is my belief that the psychological manipulation of gaslighting is one of the most painful things any person can endure. This kind of treatment drives clients to my office more than pretty much anything else. Gaslighting and other forms of narcissistic abuse can, at its worse, be deadly. Get help if you are experiencing this on a regular basis.

What is gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a subtle yet insidious form of psychological manipulation that can leave you questioning your own reality, perception and, in its worse cases, your sanity. Whether it occurs in personal relationships, the workplace, or even in larger societal contexts, gaslighting can erode your confidence and make you feel isolated and confused.

What to Do When You’re Feeling Unmotivated

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Winter blues, anyone?

We all experience moments of low motivation—those times when even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming. Whether it’s work, personal goals, or everyday responsibilities, feeling stuck is completely normal. The good news? There are ways to reignite your motivation and get back on track.

Since you may be feeling unmotivated, I’ll keep it simple:

1. Identify the Root Cause

Before you can regain motivation, it helps to understand why you’re feeling unmotivated. Are you burned out? Overwhelmed? Lacking purpose? Pinpointing the cause allows you to address it directly.

2. Break Tasks Into Smaller Steps

A big project or goal can feel paralyzing. Instead of focusing on the entire task, break it into small, manageable steps. Completing even one small step can give you a sense of progress and momentum.