I was doing a guided meditation by my meditation teacher, Joe Dispenza, the other day when I heard him say, “Your future lies in your heart.” A primary aspect of his mediation teachings is to have you focus on your heart while letting go of your habitual clinging to familiar thoughts and feelings.
I often find this instruction challenging as it shows me how much I am unconsciously attached to my conditioned thoughts, which then create my daily reality, even after 30 years of regular mediation!
I can relate to how hard it is to create deep change. It takes a daily practice of disconnecting from the “matrix” of our common reality and consciously choosing to see things in a different way.
The reason this is so important is that we are all caught up in a mass hypnosis of sorts. We are socialized and conditioned to think if we do the “right” things, and make the “most logical and safe” choices then everything will ultimately turn out OK. After all, that’s what we’ve been taught for years by our parents and society. They should know, right?
The problem is, this is fear-based thinking which generally does not lead us to make the most wise, inspired choices based on the dictates and yearnings of our soul.
I work with clients all the time who are at major crossroads in their lives.
Should they stay or leave their marriage? Should they take this new job that pays well, but feels less than exciting? Should they move to a new location that feels peaceful, yet risky? Should they get that extra professional training they have been craving despite the loans it will require?
The list is endless. You get my point. Life is full of challenges, tough decisions and transition points….
The path we choose in many instances will change the course of our life. It is often scary and risky.
In these situations, the phase I hear the most from clients is, “I can’t figure this out…”
After listening to the mental arguments and pros and cons of rational discourse, my response is often, “This is not a decision for your mind to make. If you could figure this out, you would have by now. This is a decision for your heart. It is one for you to take to your inner guidance.”
When I say this, I think most people intuitively get it. There is a part of us that knows there is something deeper going on here. And this deeper aspect of ourselves is not accessed through our mind.
The next hurdle is often, “Well how do I connect with and trust what’s in my heart?”
To hear our heart’s desires, we have to be willing to listen. To listen we need quiet. We need to disconnect from the relentless noise of the world we live in. This is why meditation is so powerful and transformative, but meditation is not the only way.
If mediation is not your thing, find another way to be quiet. You have to create space in your mind for the guidance from your heart to bubble up and be heard. Take a walk in nature, go for a jog, play with your pet, shut off all the devices.
You will get your answers, but will you be brave enough to hear, accept and act and act on them? I have seen clients get their intuitive, heartfelt answers in a session and 2 minutes later shift into fear and talk themself out of it.
The mind is a trickster. It wants to keep us safe. We need to connect regularly to inspiration, wisdom and positive support to keep us on track. Find a trusted mentor, therapist or coach. Journal, meditate, pray. Oftentimes, our friends and family mean well, but have their own vested interest in keeping our life from changing.
Break free from the matrix. Playing it safe is not so safe if it leads to a life of unfulfilled potential and disappointment.
A life lived with deep connection to the longings of our heart and soul may be the only real “security” any of us truly have…