Wouldn’t you love to have a drama-free relationship? It’s possible, but takes conscious effort! Read what these relationship coaches, including myself, suggest to keep things low drama…
“Spend more time focused upon your dream than upon your reality. The reality gives birth to the dream…but the dream is where you want to put your attention.” ABRAHAM
I am proud to say that I was recently chosen as one of Denver’s “Top 20 Life Coaches” by the national website expertise.com. This is after recently moving to Denver and only being in practice here for a little over one year.
In the past 1 1/2 years, I have completely transformed my life and I want to help you do that, too!
During this time, I moved across country, opened a new holistic psychotherapy and life coaching business and created a busy practice within 6 months. (I was told by colleagues this would be impossible…) I purchased a place to live with a home office to see clients which has been a longtime dream. I’ve met new friends and created a whole new life.
Was it easy? Not by a long shot! It was a risky decision to leave a busy practice in Providence, RI, and start all over in my 50’s. Taking on this venture required me to use every coaching tool that I have spent the last 20 years perfecting and teaching my clients. I now know without a shadow of a doubt that my coaching tools work! When they are utilized consistently, not only do they work, but magical, unexpected things happen…(like being chosen as one of Denver’s “Top 20 Life Coaches”.)
We’ve all heard, and experienced, by now that narcissism is on the rise. We see bad behavior splashed on the front pages of our newspapers on a daily basis, are assaulted by unrestrained opinions on social media, treated callously in the professional workplace and “ghosted” in the dating and social scene.
While we may all act as if we can tolerate these behaviors with minimal annoyance, such actions wound our psyches and souls in ways we often don’t want to acknowledge.
For years now, I have been struck by how many clients seek out my services due to the pain of being in a close relationship with a narcissistic personality be it a parent, spouse, sibling, friend or co-worker. These relationships cause pain, confusion and human carnage. Sometimes the pain lasts a lifetime. It can often derail our health, finances, self-esteem, other relationships and overall zest for life.
How do we protect ourselves from the damage of narcissistic relationships and learn to thrive despite the rising prevalence of this phenomenon in our culture?
Has anyone else noticed that the world we are living in appears to be on the verge of a collective nervous breakdown? You’d have to be living in a cave or avoiding the news altogether to not be aware of the extreme levels of stress most of us are experiencing.
We all have the usual stuff to contend with; the family responsibilities, the bills to pay, the health challenges, relationship crises, etc. The list goes on and on.
Add to that, the stress in our country, the political infighting, the fractured relationships with friends and family due to the most contentious election in our lives. And now, the very real concern of an escalation of tempers that could lead to our ultimate demise through nuclear annihilation. Yes, these are challenging times.
My morning today started like most people’s mornings. I took yesterday off due to the holiday. Today I awoke to a flurry of emails, text messages and phone calls. While fielding these necessities, I was preparing my last minute documents for my appointment with my accountant tomorrow to do my taxes. As a self-employed person, tax prep, for me, is complex, stressful and time-consuming. On top of that, I am fighting off the flu.
By 11:00 am I felt kind of fried. I could have kept pushing through, but instead I decided to stop. I shut off my phone and meditated for 30 minutes. I know what you are thinking, “I don’t have time to do that!” Actually, you don’t have time to not do that.
As a therapist and life coach I work with clients all day long who are trying to create changes in their lives. Often they want new career opportunities or their own business with more creativity, flexibility and freedom. They desire better relationships with a spouse, family member or colleague. They may want to change living situations, geographic location, start a new relationship, or improve their health, fitness and finances. The list is endless.
Change drives us and fascinates us. Yet, it also frustrates us and scares us like nothing else. As much as we may want a change, the desire to stay safe is equally strong. These two opposing forces– to grow, yet stay safe–wreck havoc and inner conflict like nothing else. I once heard someone say, “If you want to grow, get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”
So what is one to do?
Here are 5 steps to help you navigate change more skillfully and with less fear: