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Do You Trust in Life?

EMd4xLyb I was recently asked to write a chapter for a book called, Dare to be Authentic:Learning to Trust Yourself. While I did not know of the woman doing the book project when she approached me, I looked over her previous two books, had a conversation with her and said, “Yes”.

Given that I had just moved across country to Denver from Providence, RI, and walked away from my RI-based thriving psychotherapy and life coaching practice, I was certainly practicing daring to be authentic and trusting myself. To then have this woman find my LinkedIn profile and approach me to join her book project seemed a bit serendipitous to say the least.

I love it when life lines up like that. It feels like a confirmation that I am heading in the right direction and receiving a nudge to keep going. It reminds me to trust life and be true to my deep desires and yearnings.

My recent experience of moving across country and starting my life over in a new location has been a lesson in trusting myself and life. It has also been a lesson in trusting in my ability to navigate both the challenges and opportunities of major change and transformation.

When navigating life’s big transitions, how can we all learn to trust more in life? What have I learned so far?

Navigating Change with Vision, Passion and Purpose

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We live in a world that is moving at breakneck speed. Change is all around us and our individual choices about how to live our lives are greater than ever before. This can be both exhilarating and immobilizing. I talk to clients everyday who are trying to create positive changes in their lives and are looking for the best ways possible to break through their limiting thoughts, beliefs and actions so as to create the lives they imagine and desire.

As a psychotherapist and life coach who has been in private practice for over 10 years, I have searched diligently for the most effective tools and techniques to help both my clients and myself navigate the sometimes treacherous terrain of personal transformation and healing.

In the last month, I have put to test some of the tools I study and recommend. The decision to make some big changes in my life was made over a period of time, yet in the last month I closed my psychotherapy practice in Providence, RI, and moved to Denver, CO. I sold my home, drove 2, 000 miles, moved into a new place, left behind a stable income, said good-bye to friends and family and walked into a new life.

Mission Accomplished:I’m Going Home

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road-689426_1280 I’ve had a strange assignment the past seven years. It was a tough one of going into the darkness and chaos of having my life fall apart on so many levels I didn’t recognize myself or my life anymore. My self-identity was battered and bruised. I went through a divorce. I found myself living somewhere that didn’t feel like home on any level.

I went through the collapse of the economy shortly after the collapse of my marriage. Other relationships no longer fit. I felt raw, angry, scared. As vulnerable as I felt, I couldn’t take any B.S. anymore. If something didn’t feel right, I said so and some people didn’t like it. OK, most people didn’t like it. I’m sorry.

I watched more things fall away. My two cats died. I made some bad investments. My health wavered. Fun times indeed. The two best relocation astrologers I could find told me I was living in the worst possibly place for me. They said get out now. I bought a house. I know. I’ve never been great at taking advice…even if I ask for it. Let’s just say I was a bit confused and disoriented. (I can laugh now..not then.)

Walking Through the Fire of Transformation

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fog-687254_1280 I’ve been working with a client for several weeks now who is in an ambivalent marriage. One of the ways he deals with it is by having affairs. He saw a therapist prior to me who actually supported this behavior and saw it as a way to explore his feelings and help him decide if he wanted to stay in his marriage or not. Several years later, he’s still doing the same behavior and is as stuck as ever.

While I generally stay as neutral as possible around my client’s choices and encourage them to follow their own inner guidance, when I see patterns of behavior in which people are getting hurt I feel it’s my professional responsibility to speak up and push the issue.

We’ve spent some time exploring the history of his marriage and the reasons he does what he does. It’s now time for some change. His wife has found out. She has been hurt. I’ve shared with him that there is simply no easy, painless choice here. It is time for him to walk through the fire of transformation and get to the other side. He has to decide to commit to the marriage or commit to leaving.

Walking through this kind of fire can feel like death. It is the death of life as we know it and our ego does not like that.

Our ego will hold on to situations and rationalize our staying stuck as if our life depends on it. Walking into the unknown takes courage and can be risky. Staying stuck in old “safe” patterns, on the other hand, leads to stagnation and an unlived life.

How to Call on the Divine Feminine for Healing

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Last week was a tough week. I felt a bit stunned at the end of the week by how many women, and men, had come into my office in a state of utter exhaustion, self-doubt, self-judgment and self-criticism. Honestly, it was hard to sit in the energy. I cancelled my last client of the week and had to go home. I never do that.

What is going on? Is there something in the water, the air, or the food we are eating? Is it the GMO’s, the chemtrails, Facebook, (sorry), or the speed of life these days?

I don’t know. But, I do know this level of self-abuse has to stop. It is slowly killing all of us.

I don’t want to get all woo woo here, but I do believe we are going through some kind of collective detox as the energies on the planet intensify for the shift in consciousness we are all being called to make. I feel it is going on both on a global and individual level. As above, so below.

As this shift is happening, we are being stirred and shaken to face our shadows and the dark areas of our psyche that need to come into the light and heal. From what I have seen, in my own life and the lives of others, this does not feel good— to say the least.

This can feel like death. It is the death of the ego which has been our master for so long. (And look where that has gotten us…)

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