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Five Keys to a Happy Relationship

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As a transformational coach and holistic psychotherapist, about forty percent of my clients are couples, married and unmarried. I love working with couples. It fascinates me to see who someone chooses as a life partner and to explore the dynamics that they create together. It’s an honor and privilege to be allowed into the private matters and sacred territory of the most intimate part of someone’s life.

I have been working with couples for about ten years. Of course, the couples who come to me are in some kind of distress or they wouldn’t need my services. Lately however, I have seen an increase in couples in distress and what seems to be an epidemic of marriages of people in their 50’s hitting the rocks and breaking up. And in most of the cases, it is the woman who wants out and the man who is devastated.

I think there are many reasons this is happening. Woman are tired of putting their needs last and taking care of everyone else. They often have the economic freedom to be on their own and they crave a deeper emotional connection than they are getting. Many times there is also a basic incompatibility that their younger self just did not see which becomes intolerable as one matures and realizes time is finite.

Oftentimes they still love their partner, but don’t love the relationship. It’s complicated, heart-wrenching and life-altering to make this decision, but sometimes there’s no other healthy choice. I get it. I’ve been there and have been through divorce myself.

What I have come to realize is that perhaps some of these relationships could have been saved if they only knew some key relationship skills to use along the way.

Here’s 5 Keys to a Happy Relationship:

Three Steps to Cultivate the Healing Power of Beauty

by Nancy Harris Leave a Comment

Last week I wrote about the healing power of pleasure. It got me thinking about healing in general and what helps us to heal or feel better. I know for me having fun and cultivating beauty in my life are two of the most healing energies I can tap into.

Let’s face it we live in a harsh world with many forces that wear us down, stress us to the max, and present us with daily challenges that often leave us feeling disheartened and discouraged. It can take discipline to get out and have fun or do something to bring a little beauty into our lives when our spirits may be low.

I often wonder why life can’t be easier —kind of like a 5 star resort with turquoise blue water, scrumptious food, loving people, exotic flowers, clear blue skies and beauty and pleasure all around.

I guess if life was like that we wouldn’t grow, evolve and learn the lessons we all came here to learn.

While we can’t live in a 5-star resort all the time, we can bring the healing power of beauty into our lives and let it heal and soothe our body, mind and soul. Ultimately, this will lift our vibration and transport us into a higher frequency of healing.

Once in a higher frequency, we are better able to tap into inner guidance and chose our best next steps in life. More things feel possible and life flows with enhanced grace and ease.

So what are some good ways to cultivate the healing power of beauty? Here are some of my favorite.

The Healing Power of Pleasure

by Nancy Harris Leave a Comment

There are more and more messages these days about the healing power of pleasure. Well known doctors such as Christiane Northrup and Sara Gottfried are providing us with the scientific reasons why pleasure is so healing to our bodies, minds, and souls.

Pleasure decreases our stress hormones, raises our neurotransmitters, inhibits cellular inflammation and slows down the aging process. If we could bottle and sell that, it would be the best selling drug available.

However, the point is, we can do this on our own.

We just need to give ourselves permission to experience more fun, more joy and more of whatever turns us on.

Last week I listened to some of The Red Tent Revival presented online by Kristin Sweeting Morelli. Kristin and her guests discussed the role of pleasure in awakening and cultivating the potent feminine energy within all women that is waiting to be fully activated.

It was touching and beautiful to see a community of women come together to discuss such things as sensual dance, sacred sexuality, loving your body and how to express the empowered feminine in a relationship so as to honor and bring out the best in a man.

Why isn’t this mainstream discussion and behavior?

Our ability to access more pleasurable states of being has been suppressed long enough and it is time for all of us to do something about it both individually and collectively.

How to Take Inspired Action:Three Easy Steps

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How to Take Inspired Action:Three Easy Steps I’ve had several conversations this week with clients and friends who desire to create new situations in their lives.

They’ve talked about wanting to create new eating patterns, exercise routines, careers, businesses, living spaces, romances, hobbies, budgets, friendships, more time with their spouses and kids, etc.

It’s all very admirable. After all, it is springtime and we’ve had a rough cold winter at least here in the northeast. We are emerging from the freeze with renewed zest for getting back into our lives and planting the seeds for our next stage of growth.

However, I have noticed a glaring pattern in most of these conversations. I have sensed stress, strain, fatigue and burnout as the underlying energy fueling these new desires. There is a sense of running away from these uncomfortable feelings as the source of creation for something new, as opposed to choosing from a place of deep desire and inspiration.

It took me a while to get what was going on.

How to Align with Your Dreams and Bring Them into Reality

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I feel the work I do is sacred.

All week long people tell me their greatest desires, hopes, and dreams for their lives. Sometimes they have never told anyone else the thoughts that lie dormant in their hearts. They are often passively waiting for the right conditions and circumstances to present themselves so they may realize these dreams and create a life they truly love.

It takes courage, tenacity and fortitude to create a well-lived life. Most of us are just trying to get by and dodge the next mishap.

Yet, I find deep within the hearts of most people I speak with there is a field of hidden treasures and buried jewels just waiting to be uncovered and paid attention to.

Why is it that we tend to not discuss such things and, in many cases, never allow these dreams to see the light of day?

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