In my recent blog entitled, Is Your Old Life Dying?, I wrote about the way in which life is speeding up these days and so many of us are seeing our old lives fall away while being called to birth something new. Many times we have no idea what this new life is supposed to be or how we are going to create it, but the old way of living simply feels outdated, suffocating, uninspired and boring. I especially see this in the clients I work with who are in their late 30’s to mid-fifties and beyond.
This can be a time of great disorientation, agitation and frustration that can leave one feeling a bit disheartened, battered and bruised.
It can be hard to keep the faith that something new and better awaits us on the other side of this journey when all we can feel is confusion and chaos mixed with uncertainty and fear.
I listened to a call by one of my mentor coaches this week, Martha Beck, in which she talked about the rapidly accelerating pace of change that is taking place in the world, and in all of our lives, like never before. There is a quickening going on and we are finding situations in our lives collapsing in a way that we are being called to reinvent ourselves, over and over, often in profound and dramatic ways.
Over the years of working with clients as a psychotherapist and life coach, I have witnessed many people go through periods of time in which they felt everything was falling apart. Life is full of unexpected losses, changes, and transitions such as an illness, a job loss, a divorce, a cross-country move, a major financial setback, etc. However, there are those times in life in which multiple uncontrollable events may be happening all at once that push you to the edge of your ability to cope and keep you from wanting to get out of bed in the morning.